What's the value of my story?

Do you have events that you go over and over in your mind? Things at work, school, with your family or friends? Do you tell them again and again to anyone who'll listen? What is it about those event that makes you retell them? Do they make you feel good and help you move on? Do they make people take notice of you or feel sympathy for you? When you tell your stories, does it invite new events, people and possibilities into you life? Or does it focus all your interest, energy and talents on the limitations of the story? Are they justifications about why you can't do something. To clarify what lies behind your stories, ask “What's the value of my story?” and notice what comes to mind. If they don't have the value you'd like, just notice it with “hmm, interesting,” then talk about something else. If someone you know is telling you the same story again and again, you can choose to listen politely, avoid them, or smile and say“Wow, that's a great story. You really must love it to keep telling it. Got any others?”  You never know what your question will create.
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Thanks SQ for the question.