Do you find you are often disappointed by the way things turn out? Are you ever let down by what people say or do? Can you control how other people run their lives, even in relation to you? And even when you tell them exactly what behaviour and words would make things work like magic between you? No. People will always do exactly what they think works for them and pay no attention to your point of view. The only thing you can create is your own life. So if you'd like to be free of feeling disappointed or let down, ask “What are my expectations in relation to this?” When you are clear of your expectations, you can ask another question, like “If I had no expectations of anything or anyone else, what could I change to create the result I'd truly like?” What if it were as simple as changing your point of view?

How many times a day do you hear yourself saying “I'd like to be/do/have [enter your desire here_______________] BUT I can't/shouldn't BECAUSE [enter your reasons/justifications here__________________]”? Once, 10, 100 a day? Sure, you're clever. You've analyzed the thing from all angles and worked out exactly why you can't/shouldn't. And you're not wrong. When you decide something is not possible, you're absolutely right. It is not possible. Would you like more possibility in life? Would you like to be/do/have all those things you have decided are not possible? If so, ask “What if I stopped being my greatest limitation and started living?” Think of this as a gentle slap on the cheek to remind you all things are possible. Then ask another question (or six hundred) and create your life as you'd really like it.

Do you ever fnd yourself talking about a particular topic to anyone who'll listen? Something you'd like people to notice and agree with you about? It could be about the state of the nation, ofce or people's houses, clothes or bodies. When you do that, notice your energy. Do you talk about it lightly as a question with an “interesting point of view” energy, and then get on with the fun of life? Or do you sense a heaviness, a stickiness which distracts you from being joyful? When you say “interesting” and get on with it you are being aware and in allowance of it. When you get gummed up with its heaviness, you are the effect of it. So if you'd like to have uninterrupted access to joy in life, next time you notice yourself repeatedly thinking, saying or doing something ask “Am I in allowance, or the effect of this?”