How often do you get angry? What makes you angry? How quickly does your anger come to the surface? Do you think it's wrong? Does the anger envelope you in layers you can't escape? Does it distract you from creating the life you'd truly like? Rather than considering anger in itself wrong, what if you asked a question to get clear on what it truly was? For example, Heated Anger can indicate where you are in judgement, rather than interesting point of view. Explosive Anger can show you where you've been suppressing yourself. Or Rising Anger may indicate someone is lying to you. All useful to know. So next time, ask “What is this anger?” Then notice what shows up and acknowledge it. In doing so, you'll be free to choose for you, rather than be in response. Don't forget, you can always play with Potent Anger to get your point across.
Do you feel trapped or frozen by any of these: blame, shame, regret, guilt, anger, rage, fury, hate, love, sex, jealousy, doubt, fear, or relationship, business, life, living, death, reality, or addictive, compulsive, obsessive or perverted points of view? Are they real and true? Or are they designed to control and distract you from creating the life you'd really like? Take blame, for example. Is it real? Or is it an interesting point of view? Do you function as though it's real by buying into the idea that “someone must take the blame” and then become distracted by the trauma and drama searching for someone to blame, or deflecting or excusing the blame? What if instead you recognized distractions and saw the infnite possibilities beyond? If you'd like to be free of such control, next time you notice you're being distracted from what you'd actually like to be and do, ask “Is this [insert your item, for example blame] distracting me from creating the life I'd truly like?”
If you have something in your life you've been trying to change continually to no effect, ask "What do I love about this?" How willing are you to change or let go of things you love? Not much? Not at all? Are you ever distracted by a fear that you will never have it again (for example, a bad relationship is better than no relationship at all)? When something is not working for you, frst get clear on what parts of it you love. Then you can ask other questions like "What would it take for me to find something else that would be an even greater contribution to my life?" and "What would it take for the parts of this that are not working for me, to change into something greater than I could imagine?" When you become clear on what you love about something, and are willing to let it go, or demand that it change, you will no longer be weighed down by it. Instead, you will have the freedom to choose it, or not choose it.
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