What IS the point of life? Do you know? Does anyone? And will it be the same for everyone? What if you could choose and create your own point of life? What would you choose? What if you started by asking what brings you joy and consciously chose that? Who decided you had to choose the no-fun, problem-filled, hard version of life that most people seem to create anyway? Start by asking “What if the point of life was to have fun?”
Surely that's not possible? Study and success are supposed to be hard and take a long time. That's what everyone says...and what if it weren't true...?
When did you decide work had to be hard and no fun? Perhaps when you were a little kid you heard your parents complaining about their day at the office or factory? Most people do. Are you interested in a different possibility? Start by giving up all the points of view you have about work. Then ask “What if work were fun?” What if you enjoyed what you did every moment AND made money? Would you still call it work? Or could you say to your family “Bye! I'm going off to have fun for the day! See you tonight!” That would probably crinkle a universe or two. How can you create income from activities you enjoy? By asking more questions and being willing to change and do whatever it takes. Are you willing?
Do you enjoy your body and do fun things with it? Like skip and run and jump and dance and play? Or have you been trying to make your body do things you've decided are 'healthy'? Is that fun? How does your body take it? What if you asked your body what IT enjoyed and followed it's lead? Remember when you were five? Like that. So ask “Body, what would be fun for you?” Exercise might become a whole lot easier.
How's your body feeling? Not so great? Awesome? In either case, invite it to tell you what it would like. Ask “Body, what do you desire?” Then listen and give it what IT – not YOU or anyone else has decided it needs – would like. What if by listening more to your body, your aches and pains melted away? What if every cell sung with the health, life and energy of a five year old? Would that be fun?
What if there was nothing wrong with you? What if you were just different? Start by asking “What's right about me that I'm not getting” What if you were not nearly as messed up as you thought you were?
Do you usually try to fix things when you think they've “gone wrong”? How does that usually work out? A lot of blood, sweat and tears? What if you looked for the RIGHT in things instead of trying to fix the “wrong”? What if you never needed to fix anything ever again? So next time things don't work out the way you thought they should have, ask “What's right about this I'm not getting?” Add “What else is possible?” if you'd like to invite in even greater new possibilities.
Do you have days when things are just not working the way you'd like to? When everybody replies “no”, “you can't do that” or “that's not the way we do things around here”? You've got great ideas, great energy, a desire to contribute and the other people are simply not in the zone. Does this frustrate, upset or disappoint you? Do you walk away despondent and dispirited? Next time your boss, parents, teacher, business partner, employee, children or insignificant other says “no” reply“OK. Got it. That doesn't work for you. I wonder what else is possible?" Then listen and see what they say. They may surprise you with an even better idea that yours. At the very least you will have kept the discussion open.
On a scale of 1-10, how grateful are you for people and things in your life? And how often do you let them know? When someone thanks you, how do you feel? Good, huh? It may even make you want to hang around longer, visit again soon, work extra hard, and do whatever it takes to contribute to them in extra special ways. The energetic vibe of thanks is warm and yummy and a great invitation. So whenever good stuff – both things and people – show up in your life, acknowledge them by asking “How did I get so lucky?” It's a great way to say you're thankful and to invite more of the good stuff to come your way.
Whatever you've got going on – great or not so great – it can always get better. You just have to ask. What good things are going on with you right now? Did you get the boy, girl, job, house, lottery ticket, exam results, [list your own good stuff here_____________] that you had been hoping for? What about bad things? Perhaps you got a parking ticket, failed the exam, missed out on the job, lost the deal you've been working on for six months, got dumped by the love of your life, was thrown out of the house, [list your own not-so-good stuff here _________________________]? Now ask “How does it get even better than this?” This is your invitation for something even better to show up. Of course you'd like the bad things to improve. The good stuff? Just because something is totally awesome now, doesn't mean it can't be even MORE awesome.