What does success mean to you? Getting into that school? Getting that job, that person, that house? Driving a cool sports car? Having a million dollars in the bank? Nothing wrong with having a clear idea about what would be fun for you. The question is, did you select these things because they would be fun for you? Or because you decided (or someone else told you) that these things would show other people you were successful? And until you have these things, you must work long and hard, and make sacrifices, including not doing things you really enjoy? If you're not enjoying life right now, ask “How have I defined success?” and get clear on what is driving you. What if instead you drove yourself and defined success in ways that work for you? For example, “What will it take for me to bounce out of bed every morning, smiling and inspired by everything I do and everyone I meet?” You can of course add “With some fun, zappy wheels to get me around, or something greater?”
Do you sometimes feel like you're not being who you really are? That you're being all sorts of things for other people, and nothing for you? Do any of these roles sound familiar? Latest-at-the-offce employee, best-drinking boss, super mum, breadwinner dad, A-grades daughter, sports-champion son, host-with-the-most, community hero, best-friend-to-all, [fll in your own identities here___________________________]? Do they weigh you down? Do you feel lost under layers of masks to make other people happy, but don't quite feel like you? Would you like to rediscover who you really are? If so, ask “If I were me, who would I be?” What if being you was more than just fine? What if it was wonderful and exactly what your family, home, offce, communities and the world needed?
Has someone, sometime sold you the idea you can't be something? Did they tell you you're not clever, pretty, thin, tall, handsome, rich, strong, creative, healthy, [fll in your own limitation here_______________________] enough to get a particular job, make money, have great friends, create the life you'd like? What if it weren't true? What if you could be anything you liked regardless of what other people told you were your limitations? Just because someone says something about you, does that make it true? Only if you agree. So if you feel limited, ask “What have I decided I can't be?” This will help you see and unlock the doors to everything you have decided it is not possible to be. You may even rediscover the greater you, beyond anything you ever imagined. What's right about you that you're not getting?
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