What could I be doing differently?

Are you stuck in a destructive cycle of up-down-up-down-win-lose-win-lose with someone? Can you see the precise disconnect between you and the other person, and how the situation could improve so simply and easily if you both changed a little of this and a little of that? Truth, can you ever change anyone else? No. The only thing you can change is YOU. YOU are the only one that can cut your mobius strip of conflict. Are you willing to stop hanging on to your point of view that you can change someone? Sometimes change is possible only when you let things go. So if you'd like to extract yourself from a cycle of struggle, ask “What could I be doing differently that would contribute to the change I desire?”