Is this person really my friend?

Are you often getting into upsets with friends, or being hurt by the things they say or do? Rarely, a lot, or all the time? What is a friend? Someone who enjoys you, in total allowance. Someone who acknowledges you just as you are, including all the crazy choices you might make, without judgement. Someone who is fun to hang out with and adds to your life, and is grateful to you for adding to theirs. Got anyone in like that in your life now? If not, start with one: you. Are you willing to be your best friend? What if your energy of space and allowance was the invitation for others like that to find you and ask to play? So next time you get upset, hurt, angry or have some other uncomfortable sensation in relation to a friend, and you'd like to change that, ask yourself “Is this person really my friend?” If you notice your current friends spend most of their time telling you how you're wrong and should change because they “care for you,” ask them “Would you like to be my friend? Then you need to stop judging me. If not, that's ok. I'll miss you and hope you have a great life.” Then they can choose.