Does someone get angry with you regularly? How do you react? Do you start thinking you haven't been good enough? That you're wrong? Do you try to fold, staple and mutilate yourself to appease them? Or perhaps you respond with your own anger? Does any of this ever work for you? Are you at ease with anger? If not, ask "What about this anger am I grateful for?" There is always something. For example, being aware of the anger, you can choose to keep it in your life or not. If you'd like them in your life you can say "This anger doesn't work for me. Does it work for you? Would you like to change it?" If they say yes, great, there is an invitation for change. If no, then at least you know and you get to choose for you. This question will help you step out of the distraction of reacting to anger, which will only serve to keep you from creating the life you'd really like.
Thanks to M for this one. There's always something right about everything :)
Do you know any mean people? They exist, even if you don't want to see them. When you do see someone who is mean, do you immediately list all the reasons for why? Bad childhood, bad break-up, bad workplace. What other justifications do you find? Are these reasons and justifications true? What about people who have been horribly abused as kids, who as adults are extraordinarily caring people? And those who had comparatively nice childhoods, who as adults are just plain mean? Know any people like this? What if being mean, or kind, was just a choice available to anyone to choose, at any time? So if you'd like to free yourself from the effect of meanness, and contribute more kindness to the world, ask "What if being mean was just a choice?" What would you choose today? What if kindness changed the world? What if YOUR kindness changed the world?
Thanks to Dr Dain Heer for this one. Like to hear him talk about it? A video just for you here http://youtu.be/oMhJvDVcnok
Do you find most people in your life love to tell you what to do? Perhaps you've started a new business, project, or hobby, and suddenly friends, family and strangers start telling you what you're doing wrong and how you should be doing it? Had you expected at least friends and family to be supportive and offer kind words? Have you been caught in a whirl of accommodating armchair critics only to become exhausted or confused? Or do you respond by rejecting everything, saying to yourself that their ideas are off target, won't work, or are too costly? Is this fun for you? If not, ask "What if I could receive everything with ease?" and smile and nod every time someone gifts you their views. Would you be willing to step out of the autopilot "do" or "do not" and acknowledged with gratitude every unsolicited point of view as gifts that could contribute to your awareness? Then you can choose to act, or not, from your expanded awareness. Repeat ad infinitum.
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