Does someone get angry with you regularly? How do you react? Do you start thinking you haven't been good enough? That you're wrong? Do you try to fold, staple and mutilate yourself to appease them? Or perhaps you respond with your own anger? Does any of this ever work for you? Are you at ease with anger? If not, ask "What about this anger am I grateful for?" There is always something. For example, being aware of the anger, you can choose to keep it in your life or not. If you'd like them in your life you can say "This anger doesn't work for me. Does it work for you? Would you like to change it?" If they say yes, great, there is an invitation for change. If no, then at least you know and you get to choose for you. This question will help you step out of the distraction of reacting to anger, which will only serve to keep you from creating the life you'd really like.
Thanks to M for this one. There's always something right about everything :)
Are you smart? Are you aware of everything going on around you in all time, space and dimensions, seeing connections, pasts and futures that no one else is aware of? And yet do you find that other people always seem to be talking down to you, explaining and pontificating on things to you as if you had no idea? How do you react? Do you nod, smile and think "interesting"? Or do you get annoyed, worked up, and drawn into a meaningless circular argument? Do the other people ever concede you known what you're talking about? If not and you'd like greater ease in these situations ask "What if I didn't need to prove I was smart"? Does trying to prove you're smart mean that you've actually decided you're not? Is that true? Or did you buy that point of view from someone, sometime? When you try to prove you’re smart, you have to have all the answers. What if your smarts -- your awareness -- was the thing that could point out where the answers end and the questions begin? What else could be possible then?
Have you spent a few moments, hours, days, weeks or even years walking around thinking you were bad, wrong, no-good or hopeless? Were you locked into an endless downward spiral of unhappiness or sense of failure or boredom? Was that fun for you? If not and you'd like to change it, ask "What if I stopped and asked a question?" What question? It doesn't matter. Your simple choice to STOP creates a space for a new possibility to show up. Coupled with a question, any question, the possibilities suddenly become infinite. Are you willing to stop, breathe, question and smell the roses?
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