What's the value of being nice?
Do you ever find yourself surrounded by meanness? Do you even have only ONE mean person in your life tearing you down? Do you find it easy to stand up for yourself? How willing are you to speak out about what's true for you? Are you always being “nice”? If you'd like to change the meanness in your world, or find greater ease in speaking out about what you believe in, ask “What's the value of being nice?” When did you buy the idea that “being nice” was desirable above all else, even if it meant suppressing you? What if silence was simply a choice you made when you weren't willing to stand up with courage for what you knew to be true for you? What if you made another choice? Where have you been unwilling to speak up for what you know? And for who you are? And what is valuable to you? Where do you allow a few voices to ruin things for everyone? What if you recognised that YOUR voice has value and credence and potency to create change beyond anything you've ever imagined possible?
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How aware are you of the words you use every day? Listen to yourself today, and notice the number of times you use these words: why, try, need, but, never, because. Where do why questions go? Round in circles? Nowhere? Listen to kids: “Why is it cold? It's winter. Why is it winter? That's the seasons. Why do we have seasons?...” and so on. Need, try, but, and never are all lies. Do you really need anything? No. The world is an abundant place; need is the lie that it isn't. Can you really try to pick up a glass of water? No. You either do or you don't. But negates everything you just said (“Your work is really good, but...”). Never is the lie that you can't create time to suit you, when you could if you liked. Because tells you all the spurious reasons and justifications you give yourself for not doing something, when you really could if you chose. If you'd like to expand your possibilities, eliminate these words and their energy. Instead ask “What else is possible?”
Words to leave behind: want
Would you like to have scarcity disappear from your life and expand your possibilities? Then leave this word behind: want. Want – along with why, try, need, but, never and because – each contain some kind of energetic limitation. Want primarily means and has the energy of “lack”. So when you say “I want money” you are actually saying “I lack money,” which reinforces both your point of view and your reality of not having money. If what you'd actually like is more money, then instead ask a question, for example “What will it take for more money to show up in my life?” Questions will always help you see how you can create the change you're looking for. So every time you catch yourself in the act of saying want (you can also add why, try, need, but, never, and because to the list of words to leave behind) stop, smile, ask “What question could I ask here instead, that would help me create what I'd really like?”
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