Got something going on? Feeling a little down? Do you turn to your family, friends or insignificant other for comfort, kindness and a listening ear? What do they offer you? Do they tell you what you’re doing wrong and how if you lived you’re life like them everything would be great? How is that for you? Does it make you feel better? And are you really looking for answers? Or something else? A hug? A smile? Space to be you? Are you willing to create this for yourself, if no one else does? If so, ask “What will nurture me?” and be/do/have that. It could be anything. Blowing off the afternoon at work to [enter the thing you love to do to relax and makes you smile_______________________]. And remember, next time someone comes to YOU like this, ask them “What can I do for you? then listen, smile, create space, and shut up.
Do you find that your work, business or life never quite gets to where you'd like it to be? You're talented, diligent, smart, cute and more, but somehow it just isn't happening? Do you like to do it all yourself, rather than have others help? When others do help, is there a limit to what you will accept? Do you think that involving others will weaken your control? Or that if you take too much, someone else will get less? Consider nature. Do plants keep a ledger of how much oxygen and food they gift us? No. They just keep giving. The planet is an infinitely abundant place and keeps creating magically. What if you functioned from abundance, rather than scarcity? Would lifting the limit on what you were willing to receive help expand your work, business, life possibilities? Like to find out? Ask “What if there were no limit to what I could receive”?
Have you ever had a relationship which you knew could be awesome, but never seemed to work out the way you hoped? You can see how great the other person is, how great you are together, and yet things just keep going haywire no matter what you do? But you keep trying to make it work, because YOU CAN SEE all the wonderful possibilities...Do you cut off an arm or a leg to fit in with the other person? When you do that, do you find they've changed the ground rules and you have to stick them back on or fold, staple or mutilate yourself in other ways? Is that fun? Does it ever work? If not, ask “What idea have I bought as real?” You may have bought as real the idea that someone is perfect for you. If so, will you see reality, or your idea? Just because you can see the awesome potential in and with someone, doesn't mean they will choose it, even if you do.
What does your life feel like now? Light? Heavy? Fun? Serious? Energetic? Lethargic? Joyous? Miserable? Add your own words, images or feelings to describe your life as it is now. Got them? Sometimes it helps to close your eyes and do it. Now ask yourself “Is this the life I truly desire?” If your life is not exactly what you'd like, then do it again first asking “If time, money and other people's points of view weren't real, what would I choose for my life, living and reality?” Now get a sense of the energy of the life you'd truly like. Add words, images, smells, feelings, sensations too if that helps. Got it? Are the two energies the same or different? What if you carried with you the energy of the life you'd truly like, and chose consciously people and things that matched it, regardless of your normal logical pros and cons? Could that make it easier for you to create the life you'd truly like? Maybe.
Do you know what you'd really like in life? What you truly desire? Have you ever allowed yourself to consider it? Or have you always been/done/chosen what others told you was 'the right thing'? If you're life is not going quite how you'd like it, maybe you've been choosing for others, rather than for you? So how do you know what you'd really like? Just ask “What do I truly desire?” and see what comes to mind. It may not be anything that you've ever acknowledged before, or thought was appropriate. Are you willing to look at it now? Once you can see your true desires, then you can invite them into you life. You just need to ask.
How often do you ask for what you'd really like? All the time? Sometimes? Almost never? And how much of what you'd really like do you have in your life right now? A lot? A little? Almost nothing? Do you see the connection? Don't ask, don't get. What stops you from asking for what you'd like? Do you think it's selfish? That there's not enough to go around and you should give up your bit (whatever that is) for someone else? That you don't deserve it? That you don't need to ask for anything from anyone? That people should know what you want? Something else? Are these true? Or are they interesting points of view you bought from someone, sometime? One of the truths of the universe is “Ask and you will receive.” So if you don't have the life you'd truly like right now, are you willing to start by asking for it?
How often do you get angry? What makes you angry? How quickly does your anger come to the surface? Do you think it's wrong? Does the anger envelope you in layers you can't escape? Does it distract you from creating the life you'd truly like? Rather than considering anger in itself wrong, what if you asked a question to get clear on what it truly was? For example, Heated Anger can indicate where you are in judgement, rather than interesting point of view. Explosive Anger can show you where you've been suppressing yourself. Or Rising Anger may indicate someone is lying to you. All useful to know. So next time, ask “What is this anger?” Then notice what shows up and acknowledge it. In doing so, you'll be free to choose for you, rather than be in response. Don't forget, you can always play with Potent Anger to get your point across.
Have you been asking questions but things don't seem to be changing in the way you'd hoped? What sort of questions are you asking? Do they sound like this “What's it going to take for my red BMW sportscar/a young, blond, sexy date to show up?” or “What's it going to take for me to get a job where people recognize my worth?” Are these really questions? Or are they conclusions with question marks attached? In other words, you've decided what you want (red BMW sportscar/young, blond, sexy date) and that without a particular job you have no worth. So if you're not getting the change you'd truly like, check your questions. Ask “Is this a question or a statement with a question mark attached?” Then ask a question.
Are you stuck in a rut with someone? Your insignificant other? A parent? Your boss? A co-worker? Or even a friend? Is something not-quite-right between you and no matter what you do, you can't seem to make it work for you? What have you decided this person means to you? Have you made them the answer to something? For example, have you made your boy/girlfriend The One? Are your parents proof that you're The Good Child? Is your boss The Enemy, around which you rally with your co-workers? Is a co-worker The Unfair Competition to excuse your own uninspired performance? Is your friend the [fill in their role and it's value here___________________]. If you'd like to be free from these limits and to see people for who they truly are, rather than what you've decided they are, ask “What have I made this person mean to me?” then simply let it go.
Do you ever blame other people or circumstances for things that don't work out in your life? Does it make you feel better and help you create the life you'd actually like? Or does it side-track you into an Alice In Wonderland-like maze of distraction? If you'd like to create the life you'd like, acknowledge your role as creator of everything that shows up in it. How? For every good, bad, ugly, beautiful thing that shows up in it ask “How did I create this?” It'll be easy for the good, beautiful things. What about the bad, ugly things? What if by taking ownership of everything in your life, you gained clarity over how you created it? Then, if it doesn't work for you (bad/ugly), you can see how to create it differently.
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