Do you really need someone else to create questions for you? Or are you uniquely equipped to create your own? A question will always empower you to see new possibilities. Answers will only lock you into what you have already decided is "good" or "right" (for you? for whom?). I am sad to say I am suspending this Daily Q service for the time being. Don't forget, this site has a year's repository of questions to get see you through. Start at the beginning and work though...? If you're stuck, send me your situation and I'll handcraft a question for you, and share it with others. So I guess it will become the "Occasional Q". Ho ho.
So sorry. Got things going on. Taking a break for now.
Does someone get angry with you regularly? How do you react? Do you start thinking you haven't been good enough? That you're wrong? Do you try to fold, staple and mutilate yourself to appease them? Or perhaps you respond with your own anger? Does any of this ever work for you? Are you at ease with anger? If not, ask "What about this anger am I grateful for?" There is always something. For example, being aware of the anger, you can choose to keep it in your life or not. If you'd like them in your life you can say "This anger doesn't work for me. Does it work for you? Would you like to change it?" If they say yes, great, there is an invitation for change. If no, then at least you know and you get to choose for you. This question will help you step out of the distraction of reacting to anger, which will only serve to keep you from creating the life you'd really like.
Thanks to M for this one. There's always something right about everything :)
Are you smart? Are you aware of everything going on around you in all time, space and dimensions, seeing connections, pasts and futures that no one else is aware of? And yet do you find that other people always seem to be talking down to you, explaining and pontificating on things to you as if you had no idea? How do you react? Do you nod, smile and think "interesting"? Or do you get annoyed, worked up, and drawn into a meaningless circular argument? Do the other people ever concede you known what you're talking about? If not and you'd like greater ease in these situations ask "What if I didn't need to prove I was smart"? Does trying to prove you're smart mean that you've actually decided you're not? Is that true? Or did you buy that point of view from someone, sometime? When you try to prove you’re smart, you have to have all the answers. What if your smarts -- your awareness -- was the thing that could point out where the answers end and the questions begin? What else could be possible then?
Have you spent a few moments, hours, days, weeks or even years walking around thinking you were bad, wrong, no-good or hopeless? Were you locked into an endless downward spiral of unhappiness or sense of failure or boredom? Was that fun for you? If not and you'd like to change it, ask "What if I stopped and asked a question?" What question? It doesn't matter. Your simple choice to STOP creates a space for a new possibility to show up. Coupled with a question, any question, the possibilities suddenly become infinite. Are you willing to stop, breathe, question and smell the roses?
I am very sorry if I miss a Daily Q every now and then. I aim to write and publish every day and sometimes life simply gets in the way :)
Do you know any mean people? They exist, even if you don't want to see them. When you do see someone who is mean, do you immediately list all the reasons for why? Bad childhood, bad break-up, bad workplace. What other justifications do you find? Are these reasons and justifications true? What about people who have been horribly abused as kids, who as adults are extraordinarily caring people? And those who had comparatively nice childhoods, who as adults are just plain mean? Know any people like this? What if being mean, or kind, was just a choice available to anyone to choose, at any time? So if you'd like to free yourself from the effect of meanness, and contribute more kindness to the world, ask "What if being mean was just a choice?" What would you choose today? What if kindness changed the world? What if YOUR kindness changed the world?
Thanks to Dr Dain Heer for this one. Like to hear him talk about it? A video just for you here http://youtu.be/oMhJvDVcnok
What in your life is consistently "going wrong"? Have you asked someone to deliver something to you each week after a particular time, but they always turn up three hours early when you're not there? Are your point of sale records and till drawer always slightly out? Are your fuses always blowing? Are staff often turning up late, or not at all? How do you react? By sigh and patching things up to get by? Do you stress and scream? Do do you ignore it? Or are you in a constant state of slight irritation? If you'd like to disappear such "goings wrong"and create greater ease in your business, ask "What about this requires my attention?" And then attend to whatever shows up.
Do you find most people in your life love to tell you what to do? Perhaps you've started a new business, project, or hobby, and suddenly friends, family and strangers start telling you what you're doing wrong and how you should be doing it? Had you expected at least friends and family to be supportive and offer kind words? Have you been caught in a whirl of accommodating armchair critics only to become exhausted or confused? Or do you respond by rejecting everything, saying to yourself that their ideas are off target, won't work, or are too costly? Is this fun for you? If not, ask "What if I could receive everything with ease?" and smile and nod every time someone gifts you their views. Would you be willing to step out of the autopilot "do" or "do not" and acknowledged with gratitude every unsolicited point of view as gifts that could contribute to your awareness? Then you can choose to act, or not, from your expanded awareness. Repeat ad infinitum.
Are you stressed? Do you feel fractured or fatigued? Would you prefer not to be? Stress can be defined as accentuating or emphasising something. What is that for you? Study? Work? Family? Health? Meaning in life? What else? Do force on yourself to achieve things no matter what? How does that force impact on you and your body? If you are sensing stress, ask "What am I stressing"? You'll know what that is. Rather than accentuating or emphasising the importance of something, what if you stopped, noticed your attention and asked "If stress were not real, what would I create?" What if you enjoyed focusing on and contributing to your target, rather than forcing energy into it? How much stress would you sense stress then?
What in your life right now has slapped you on the face? Is something going on that has apparently come out of no where and bitten you on the bum? Like your bank transferring thousands of your money to someone you didn't authorise them to, and then refusing to refund your money? Or something even more inconvenient? Whatever that is for you, when you find you're trapped in an "OMG this is terrible" cycle of stress and worry ask "What's right about this that I'm not getting?" And keep asking it over and over, even if you don't believe it or feel it. What if there was ALWAYS something right about a "bad" situation? Like finding a bank that was even cheaper and offered much better service? How does it get any better?
Have you found yourself in a controversy where people turned against you? Do you often do things about which people shake their heads in disbelief or 'tut tut' you? How do you respond? Do you make yourself wrong? Do you start defending yourself? Do you enjoy that experience? If not ask "What if I were willing to be controversial?" What if controversy wasn't what you thought it was? What if it wasn't about being against anything? What if controversy was more about being YOU and showing up as YOU even if that didn't appear to fit within the definitions of this reality? What if being "controversial" was simply you choosing to step outside the prescribed limitations? Would you be willing?
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