Are you surprised or frustrated when people don't listen? How often have you tried to share with your family and friends the amazing things you've spent your time and money learning, only to be disappointed by their lack of interest? At best, do they smile and nod with glazed eyes and closed ears? At worst do they berate you for wasting your time and money and end by reminding you that you're stupid? Does this upset you? Do you try harder, or start a debate (fight)? Does talking more, longer or harder ever work at all? What if you could share your insights without saying a word? If you'd like to find out, ask “What if saying nothing was the greatest contribution I could be?” The shut up, nod, smile, listen and ask questions. It may take only a few minutes – or it may take decades – for the other person to stop talking and say “You're different. What is that?” And that's your invitation to talk.
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What do you have to do today, that you'd really rather not? Clean the house? Do the food shopping? Visit an unpleasant relative? Wash the car? Attend the weekly staff meeting? Write an essay? Sit an exam? Perform in public? Go to the dentist? Give your family news you know they'll hate. What makes you go “ugh, I'd rather not” but you know you're going to do it anyway. If you'd like to create a more ease for yourself, ask “How can I enjoy the heck out of it?” Your point of view reality creates your reality. So if your point of view is “I don't enjoy this” then you are correct. You don't and won't. There is no possibility it could turn out to be fun after all. And if your point of view is “What would it take for this to turn out more fun than I could ever imagine?” you create the invitation for that to occur. To start, carry with you one thing that makes you laugh. A game. A joke. A book. An app. A photo. A dance in your step. After a while you might find you won't need it. Happiness is just a choice. What do you choose?
Are you a worrier? What do you worry about? Failing exams, business, relationships, children, money. Something else? Or do you spend most of the time trying to figure out (worry about) what other people want from you and how to deliver it? For example, passing the exam, then getting the right job/ spouse/ children/ house/ car/ TV/ holiday/ other? What's the value of worry? Does it contribute anything? Or does it keep you trapped in reaction and distract you from taking action? Is it an excuse for no-action? Is it relevant?If you'd like to be free to take action and create the life you'd prefer, rather than being distracted by worry into reaction/no-action, ask “What if worry wasn't relevant?” How much of your worry stems from trying to fit in or to meet other people's expectations? Do you think it's caring? How aware of/interested in you are other people? A lot, a little, or not at all? Would you like to have more fun? Then stop worrying about what other people want and start creating your life for YOU. If your life was an adventure of constant creation, would worry exist?
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