Are you smart? Are you aware of everything going on around you in all time, space and dimensions, seeing connections, pasts and futures that no one else is aware of? And yet do you find that other people always seem to be talking down to you, explaining and pontificating on things to you as if you had no idea? How do you react? Do you nod, smile and think "interesting"? Or do you get annoyed, worked up, and drawn into a meaningless circular argument? Do the other people ever concede you known what you're talking about? If not and you'd like greater ease in these situations ask "What if I didn't need to prove I was smart"? Does trying to prove you're smart mean that you've actually decided you're not? Is that true? Or did you buy that point of view from someone, sometime? When you try to prove you’re smart, you have to have all the answers. What if your smarts -- your awareness -- was the thing that could point out where the answers end and the questions begin? What else could be possible then?
Have you spent a few moments, hours, days, weeks or even years walking around thinking you were bad, wrong, no-good or hopeless? Were you locked into an endless downward spiral of unhappiness or sense of failure or boredom? Was that fun for you? If not and you'd like to change it, ask "What if I stopped and asked a question?" What question? It doesn't matter. Your simple choice to STOP creates a space for a new possibility to show up. Coupled with a question, any question, the possibilities suddenly become infinite. Are you willing to stop, breathe, question and smell the roses?
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Have you lived most or your life feeling “wrong”? No matter what you do, think or say, do you judge and censure yourself constantly, trying to figure out whether it is right or wrong? Are you stuck in a loop of defending against and fighting for things, constructing barriers with others to prove something is right or wrong? Do you tie yourself up in knots making yourself wrong for everything? If you'd like to step out of this loop, start here. First remind yourself that right and wrong are “interesting points of view” and ask yourself “who do these points of view come from?” about any views you seems stuck on. When others come to you seeking a fight, say “yes, you are right....” and when you notice your barriers coming up ask “What if being wrong was right?” What change could you create by acknowledging the diversity of points of view? What if there were freedom in being wrong?
Thanks to Susanna Mittermaier for this great question.
Do you live life to the fullest? Adding more and more, just because it's fun and you can? Do you sometimes feel stressed by what you've taken on, but feel you can't stop because you'd let everybody down? Have you decided that you have to keep going, no matter what? If so and you'd like to create a little more ease for yourself, ask "What if taking a break was ok?" What if by taking a break, you created the space you required for something even better to show up?
Have you been shopping recently? Was it fun? Or did you get upset because you lost something, like a credit card or wallet? Were you overcharged? Did you miss out on a car park or a bargain? Did your children have a meltdown? Did you leave feeling stressed and penniless? If your experience was less than joyful, and you'd like to change your shopping (or any other) experience, ask “Is this mine? Or someone else's?”Thoughts, feelings and emotions are transmitted invisibly and soundlessly like WiFi through everyone nearby. So if you're in the middle of a shopping centre filled with overworked, underpaid, stressed, unhappy people on a budget trying to buy a “festive season,” be aware that you may pick up all their thoughts, feelings and emotions – even if you're financially comfortable and enjoy your work – and walk out feeling unhappy and overspent. Even if something does “go wrong” and you lose something, ask “What's right about this that I'm not getting?” and “How does it get any better?” smile and keep moving.
Do you have any stiffness in your body? In your neck, shoulders, spine, knees, wrists or hands? Anywhere else? Have you put it down to the natural aging process, repetitive strain injury, sitting or standing too long in one position, or lack of certain vitamins and minerals? Do you expect that as you grow older your body will stiffen and eventually seize up? If these are your points of view, then you are not wrong. What if there was a different possibility? What about those spritely seniors who roller blade like teenagers, ride horses like cowboys, or dance like latin lovers? What makes them so different? Could it simply be their point of view? If you'd like to find out, ask “What fixed points of view am I unwilling to let go?” How many layers of fixed points of view have you locked into your body and made so real that your body has lost its flexibility? What physical changes could you create with your body, simply by being willing to be “interesting point of view”?
Do you worry about what might go wrong? Is fear keeping you trapped? Are you anxious for no apparent reason? Do you feel frozen by these emotions and incapable of happiness? What's the value of operating from worry, anxiety and fear? What if happiness were just a choice? If you'd like a change, ask “What if I lived my life from the excitement of what could go right, rather than the fear of what could go wrong?” Perhaps you've misidentified excitement as fear? Or maybe you're distracted by implants that are not really yours? In both cases, acknowledge it and demand change. And if you enjoy the news, talkback radio, many other media programs and most people's conversations, consider repeating “interesting point of view” for everything you see, hear or read. How much of your worry, fear, and anxiety is you being a highly attuned WiFi device, receiving all the thoughts, feelings and emotions of everyone around you and buying them as yours? Would you “Return to sender with consciousness?”
Do you strive for completion? Do you value having goals and focus your energy on achieving those? How do you feel when either you reach, or don't reach your goal? Does procrastination worry you along the way? Is the process fun? If striving for completion does not give you the sense of fulfillment and satisfaction you were hoping for, and procrastination distracts you, ask “Having done this, what can I create from here?” What if nothing was ever a completion? What if you considered your work, business and your life in general an ongoing creation, of which you were fully present and created elegantly and joyfully? Elegance is the greatest result with the least effort. You create elegance when you are fully present and choose consciously and continuously. And procrastination? This often occurs when you consider something a necessity. What if it were all just choice?
Today is the official opening of my latest project - Polit Bar - so this is a GREAT question for
How often can you see everything in someone else's universe? You know exactly what they could do different, that if they chose it would create change beyond their imagination? How many times have you tried to tell, show, coax, persuade, debate, argue, or fight to share your awareness, trying to help them to see it, and then choose it? How often has that worked? Always, sometimes, or almost never? If you'd like an easier approach with more dynamic results, ask yourself “What question could I ask here that would lead to the awareness that will create the greatest change?” Then putting aside your hopes and dreams about the change you know is possible, ask the question that comes to mind. It might appear to have nothing to do with the “issue.” It might be as seemingly unrelated as “Are you looking to change something? If so, just ask and I'll do what I can to help.” Then smile and wait until they ask you. Are you willing to wait?
Do you spend a lot of your time feeling wrong? Do friends, family, and even passing strangers seem compelled to tell you that you haven't got it quite (or a lot) right, and if you just did it their way your life would be a whole lot better? Do you agree with, or fight against them? Is that fun and does it make you smile? If not and you'd prefer more joy, ask “Am I willing to step into my life?” What if you weren't trapped in the narrow band of other people's possibilities? What's the narrow band? Where you either agree and align and do what they tell you, or resist and react and do the opposite. When you expand beyond this band of polarity and create your life from what you know works for you, you have infinite possibilities. When people tell you you're wrong, smile and say “You're right. Thank you so much! You really have helped me to step into my life.” Then change the subject or walk away, “returning to sender” any lingering feeling of wrongness, and do what you know works for you.
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