Do you feel like your life is a mess? Is nothing quite working out the way you thought it would? Do people you thought you could rely on keep leaving you stranded? Have you asked lots of questions, but nothing is showing up how you expected it to? Do you feel like everything is falling apart? If so, ask “What if falling apart was falling together?” What if all those things you've been working on 28/8 bleeding sweat and tears were still works in progress? What if the universe was rearranging things in a way could can't yet imagine? What if the mess were simply mid-creation? Before you decide something is not working, stop and ask “What's right about this that I'm not getting?” and “What will it take for this to turn out better than I could ever imagine?” Then smile and enjoy the creative process.
Have you ever heard someone REALLY happy singing at the TOP of their voice in the shower? Yeees, they're so haaaaappy and it's a great morrrrning, la la la laaaah!!!! Can you get that joyful, exuberant energy of “sing”? Do you know it? Have you ever had it? Can you remember it at least from when you were a child or some other past experience? Your first love, receiving your first paycheck, the first day of summer holidays, something else? Got it? Would you like to have that every moment of every day? Or as a start, at least once a day for a moment starting now? If so, ask “What would make me sing today?” This does't mean you need to burst into actual song. Simply to be aware of what it is that makes every cell in your body and being vibrate with that energy of joy? Whatever THAT is for you, will you create it once today? Even if it means inviting someone special for a slow afternoon “coffee” and taking the afternoon off?
Do you consider you're addicted to something? Has someone told you you are? What is that for you? Food, drugs, alcohol, sex, work, helping people, the wrongness of you, or something else? What does addiction mean to you? That you're powerless to overcome it without submitting to a higher authority? That you will never overcome it and it will always control you? That it's a physical condition, an allergy and the only solution is a long, slow process and complete abstinence? That you are bad, wrong or a failure for having it? What if addiction wasn't what you thought it was? If you've tried everything and would like to find out what else is possible, start by asking yourself “What if addiction wasn't a disease?” What else is possible? That depends on you. How much change would you like? Visit www.thebradfordsystemofrightrecovery.com for more information about how to choose for you.
What am I not able/willing to look at here that, if I were to see, would contribute to the change I desire?
What are you focused on creating right now? It might be a new project, event, job, business, money, song, book, body, baby, relationship, other. What is that for you? Yes. THAT. Got it? Are you creating it with ease and joy and exuberant abundance? Or are you a little stuck? Have you been asking a ton of questions, but somehow the stickiness is still there? Are your questions diverse, or are they all focused on creating a particular result? If you're not receiving the ease, joy and abundance you'd like in your creative process, then ask “What am I not able/willing to look at here that, if I were to see, would contribute to the change I desire?” Even if you're asking questions, if you've already decided on a particular result, are you really in question?
Have you ever been in a workout, class, event, or meeting where someone was trying to get you to do something? How did they do it? Were they aggressive and coercive? Did they browbeat you until you got it? Did they literally scream at you COME ON PUUUUUSH!!!? Even if you're in labour with child, how do you feel when someone screams at you to “push through the pain”? Do you feel like doing it? If you're having a baby, nature will take its course. If you're not, are you likely to PUSH or are you likely to respond “hmmm, maybe not today....”? Do you do it to yourself? Is breaking the pain barrier fun? If not and you'd like another way to generate results greater than you could imagine, trying PULLING. If you'd like something greater ask “What if I pulled instead of pushed?” then pull the energy of what you desire from everywhere in the universe through you. You can also pull it through others and watch them wake up and get going. No screaming required.
Do you feel a bit tired or run down? Are you catching frequent colds or just feeling out of sorts? Got skin irritations? What's going on in your life right now? Are you busy creating all sorts of fun things for others? Are you stuck under the thumb of someone who's telling you what to do? Are you somewhere in between? Whatever you're doing, where are YOU in your life? If you notice you don't bounce out of bed in the morning at 110% and expand out to 1100% as the day progresses, then ask “Where am I in the list of priorities in my life right now?” You might express this with robust energy and laughter, or with a quiet, peaceful smile. No matter how you express it, it will be all you. What if you were willing to nurture and care for you? What would it take for you to realize how crucial you are to the possibilities of the world?
Thank you AJ for the great question! Very timely :)
Do you ever say “I've had a breakdown” when acknowledging things that didn't work out so well? What about saying “I've had a breakthrough!” when you celebrate? What is your sense of the word “break”? Does it have the energy of ease and joy of new possibilities? Or is it more force, struggle, control and limitation? If your sense is that the energy is limitation, when your intention is to create new possibilities, play with this. First ask “What if I didn't have to break anything to create my life?” Then, acknowledge things that don't turn out how you fantasized, by saying “Wow, that's some awesome @#$% I created. What's right about this that I'm not getting? How does it get even better than this?” Celebrate with “How did I get so lucky? What else is possible?” What changes could you create by acknowledging and celebrating your life with the lightness of a feather, a tickle of an invitation, rather than cracking bones?
Do you have a great new job that everyone is proud or envious of? Are you working on a project you believe has a higher purpose or great value? Have you met The One? Is your being, body, heart, mind and soul buzzing with orgasmic pleasure? Or not? Do you have a sense of heaviness, constrictive breathlessness or overwhelm? Are you stressed? Is your body suffering? Have you put this down to “new job/ project/ relationship pains”? Would you like to experience more ease and joy in life, including with any new additions like this? If so, ask “Am I creating my life for the joy or it, or something else?” When you create your life from joy, everything sings: your heart, mind, and every cell of your body and being. If you sense a part of you is not singing, destroy and uncreate anything you have made significant and ask "What could I be doing differently to create more joy?” Then smile and play until you find what brings you real joy.
Thanks J for the inspiration. These Qs are inspired by, but not necessarily exactly about particular people and events other than my own personal experiences.
How often do you say “because” every day? For example, I can't come tonight because (I have to work late); I have to work late because (I have to finish this project); I need to do this because (it's a job and better than nothing); I'd love to do what I'd really like in life but I can't because (I don't have the money, or enter your own reason here). Are the things you say after “because” real? Or are they simply all your reasons and justifications for not doing something? When you really want something, do you find a way to create it, whatever it takes? If you'd like to create more of what you'd really like in your life, notice every time you say “because” and ask “What's possible that I haven't considered?” You're not wrong when you say because. In fact, you're absolutely right. And if you'd like something more than you currently have, questions will open your eyes and show you what else is possible. Then you can create it, if you choose.
Do you ever think that if only you had more money, your life would be better? That money is the solution to your problems? That if only you had the money, you could do the things you'd really like? Is money really the answer to your life? If you had all the money you desired, would all your problems go away? Or would you create new problems, even if you had a bottomless bank account? If you know you'd probably be creating new problems, then was money really the problem? Or something else? Does money create your life? Or do YOU? If you'd like clarity about why you're not choosing what you'd really like as your life ask “What if money wasn't the problem?” Have you decided money is a convenient, acceptable excuse for not showing up as you? What if by you showing up as YOU, money came and joined the party?
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