Have you had a bad day? Did you bump into someone's parked car when you were backing down the drive? Did you get a bill 10 times what you were expecting? Did you find out the times had changed on an event you'd been promoting, an hour before it was due to start? Did you create a fight when you thought you were being helpful? Did someone else tell you how much rubbish you are? Did you have all of these in one day? Do you feel like crying? Having a stiff drink? Jumping off a cliff ? Or something else? If you'd like something else, ask “What's right about this I'm not getting?” Then ask “What would make me giggle right now?” Remember when you were five and everything made you giggle? Find ONE thing and pull that energy through you and keep looking for more things, until you lighten, smile and maybe even giggle. Even if it's to giggle at yourself for being Cute, Not Bright.
Are you comfortable with money? Or do you struggle with it and never seem to have enough? Even if you're not living hand-to-mouth, do you have the feeling you don't have as much as you need to do all the things you enjoy? Or perhaps you've defined the things you enjoy to fit within the limited amount of money you've decided you have available to you? What is your point of view about money? That it's greedy to have too much; there's not enough to go around; if I have a lot, someone else will miss out; I don't deserve it; it won't bring happiness? What else? Are these points of view true? They are if they are your point of view. Your point of view creates your reality. So if you'd like to change your point of view about money and create greater ease with it, ask “What is the value of having no money?” Whatever that is, destroy and uncreate it. Then ask more questions like “What have I decided money is?” and “What if everything about money was for the fun of it?”
Do you push yourself hard? Are you the sort of person who says “if I'm going to do this, I'm going to do it well and on time”? And do you keep going even when you're exhausted? Certainly you probably feel satisfaction in getting things done. How often do you find yourself a physical, mental or emotional wreck at the end of (or even during) the process? What if you could achieve an even greater result, without the physical, mental and emotional fatigue? If you'd like to find out what's possible for you, next time you notice you've set yourself a 'must do' – for example, exercise X days a week, get a new business up and running, meet a work presentation project deadline, ask “Body, would you like to rest?” Then listen to and honour your body. What if the space between your doing – your rest – was where your body, brain and being, relaxed to allow your ideas and energy to flow to you in even greater amounts?
Before you call the police on this one, let me ask you: where is your comfort zone? Is it on the stage? On the couch? How many of these are outside your zone: singing loudly in public, singing in public, singing loudly, singing, speaking in front of more than three people, telling a joke? What else? What activity makes your heart pound, your hands go clammy and you to think “ooooh nooooo not that....!” How much does having a comfort zone help you to create the life you'd really like? A lot, a little, or not at all? How much time do you spend thinking about the things you won't do, avoiding situations you think might lead you out of your safety zone? And how much fun are missing out on? If you'd like a peak at the possibilities that lie beyond, ask “What if I played with my comfort zone?” and take a nudging step. What's the worst that can happen? People might laugh. And laughing is good, right? So what if you joined in?
Do you encounter many angry people in your life? When people do anger, are they ever really interested in hearing your point of view? Or is their main focus getting a reaction out of you? Are they interested in you being free to say and do what you prefer? Or are they looking to control you? You know exact the moment your buttons are pushed and you become trapped in emotional reaction. Would you like to be free of that auto-response? If so, next time someone does anger at you, be Cute Not Bright. Stop and ask them “OK, what do you mean by that?” and listen. Keep asking this and listen until their anger has dissipated. Anger is a distractor people will use against you to see how you'll react, so they can find a way to gain control over you. Acknowledging the other person like this will take you out of simply reacting to them, and into action for you so you can create the life as you'd really like it.
Is your priority in life to help people? What do you like about helping people? Would you like to change the world? Do you know that, with your support, some people could create the change you'd like to see? You're not wrong. Has it always been easy for you to help people? Or do you find it a struggle, where time, money, and people always seem to thwart your efforts? Would you like to create the greatest change with the greatest ease? Then start here. Whenever you see possibilities in someone and feel the desire to help them, first ask “How can I help you?” Then listen. Be aware, some people do not desire change, no matter how great your offer. Others may like your help, but not to change; just to fill their need. This question will help you see exactly what people are looking for so you can create the greatest change possible.
Today, for the whole day, listen to everything that comes out of your mouth. Or even just for ten minutes. How much of what you say is a veiled, or even outright complaint about someone or something? Do you ever hear your voice taking on a repetitive whinging, defensive, or hostile tone? Words have their own energy to create or destroy. If your words are dominated by criticism or emotion, that is what you will create more of. There is nothing wrong with being aware of how you could create something even better. The difference is the energy behind the words. So if you'd like to change your pattern of defaulting to destructive criticism or emotion, ask “How are these words contributing to the life I'd like to create?” If you notice they're not, simply ask “How does it get any better than this?”
Do you have a lot going on? Shopping, cooking, cleaning, kids duties, family duties, work and then fall into bed in a heap only to start all over again in six hours? How often do you say “I'd love to do it but I don't have time?” How many books would you like to read, movies to see, friends to catch up with, hobbies to enjoy do you NOT do because you “don't have time”? Have you decided time and space are finite and you can't change them to suit you? If you'd like to do more of the things you enjoy in life, rather than having the duties you think you have to do fill your days, ask “What will it take for me to fold time and space?” Science questions the bounds of time and space all the time. What if you played with it too?
Right now, get the energy of your life as it is today. What does it smell like, taste like, feel like, what sounds do you hear, what sights do you see, how much do you smile, laugh and do the things you really love? Got it? Remember it. Put it in your pocket. Now ask yourself, “If time, money and everyone else's points of view were not real, what would I like the energy of my life to be like?” What would it smell like, taste like, feel like, what sounds would you hear, what sights would you see, how much would you smile, laugh and do the things you really love, who would be it it, where would you be, and what would you be doing? Got it? Is it the same or different to the energy of the life you have now? If it's different, remember it. Hold it in your hands. Whenever you consider adding something to your life, check its energy by asking “Is this the energy of the life I'd really like?”
What's your story? You know, the one you tell every time you meet someone new. Te one you replay in your head like an old film? How does it go for you? Is it a roll call of well-known schools, colleges, companies and achievements? Is it a tale of woe , misery, and hardship? Are you the victor? Are you the victim? Do you laugh? Do you cry? Is it real? Your point of view creates your reality. So if your point of view is that your story is your life, then it's real. You are welcome to keep your story. And if you would like to create change in your life, be aware that re-runs of your story will serve only to re-create that life over and over. So if you'd like to create a different life, you must be willing to give up all your old stories. If so, ask “What if I changed the story of my life?” Then make up something outrageously fun to tell. Who knows how quickly it may become real?
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