How many coincidences show up in your life? Do you ever say things like “I was just thinking about you, and you called!” “I knew that would happen!” or “I don't know why I came here today, but I found the thing that I'd been looking for for ages – half price!” Do things fall out of your mouth and people say “How did you know what I was thinking? I was just about to say that?” How often do you dismiss things that flit across your mind as not possible, not important, or not right, only to find almost immediately that it was the exact thing that was required? Do you wish you'd paid more attention? What if you were way more perceptive that you have ever been willing to admit? Would you now claim, own and acknowledge that talent, and trust you more? If so, next time you notice something flickering across your awareness like a gentle breeze, ask “What am I perceiving here?” and stay present and in the question.
What does infinite mean to you? No limit? Endless? Abundant? More than you can imagine? How many possibilities do you feel you have in your life right now? I'm just guessing, but I think you're saying: a few, not many, or the ones that I think will make my parents/ teacher/ boss/ partner/ children/ friends happy? Last time I checked with science, it said we lived in a freewill universe and we could choose freely. If that's true, then how can you NOT have infinite possibilities? Who or what is limiting your choices? You or someone else? If you'd like to unleash the possibilities in your life ask “What if I had infinite possibilities?” You may then need to ask more questions to generate specifics like time, money, health and so on. This question is just the first step to flush away your autopilot self-limitation and remind you that you have a choice.
Do you have something you'd like to do, but are finding it tough to complete, or perhaps even start? What's that for you? Pass an exam, get a job, run business, buy a house, go on a holiday, meet a fun girl/boy to hang out with, have kids, exercise, get up in the morning, relax at night? And what about not-so-much-fun stuff? For example, tell your parents something they don't know (uh-oh), quit/change schools, quit/change jobs, write something, host something, exercise, tell someone you're moving on, nurse someone in their decline, let go of a loved one? What else? When did you decide life had to be hard and suffered? Would you like a life of life fun and ease instead? Ease does not mean laze. It means doing the most complex things with the greatest joy and to the maximum effect. If so, ask “What if I could do this with ease?” and breeeeathe.
Are you plagued by past events? Bugged by people who “did you wrong” somewhere, sometime long ago? Do events and people from 1, 2, 5, 10, 20, 30 years ago seep into your dreams and shake you awake? Do you think “If only I'd done/said X it would have all been different?” Do you finally have the perfect retort? If you'd like to be free of the past to enjoy your present ask “What have I made significant about the past that isn't true?” If you had not created your life exactly the way you have – including all the not-so-great episodes – would you be the same person you are now? Would you prefer to be the now-you, or a different-you? If you are happy being the now-you, then remind yourself by asking “What if there was nothing wrong with your past?” And if you'd prefer to be a different-you, you still can be. Just choose it.
Do you think there is a limit to your energy? Do you often feel tired, drained? When you exercise, do you worry you'll run out of energy? Here's what science says. Energy cannot be created or be destroyed; it can only be transformed into another sort of energy. Systems (like people and things) can transfer energy between them simply. It appears there is no scientific reason to lack energy. Elite athletes know this. The only difference between them is their point of view, not their physical access to energy. So if you'd like to invigorate your life, ask “What if I had unlimited energy?” and then consciously pull energy from everything around you: the space, the people, the trees, whatever is available. And don't forget to ask “Am I tired, or bored?” Often the key to unleashing unlimited energy is quite simply fun. Truth, are you having fun?
What does money mean to you? Are any of these points of view yours? Money is a necessary evil so I can eat and have a roof over my head. Nothing in life is free, so I need to work hard to earn money to survive. The more I have, the more people will respect and value me. I might not be able to buy happiness, but money will make the ride a whole lot easier. What else? How do your points of view about money make you feel? Light or heavy? How often does money make you smile, laugh and light up with joy? Every day or just on pay day? If you'd like more lightness and joy about money, ask “What if everything about making money was doing it for the fun of it?” How you make money, and how you view making money is a choice. You can choose fun, or no-fun. And there is no right choice. Only choice that works for you.
Who in your life have you made so perfect, so necessary that you let them walk all over you and sell you down the river? Do you truly need anyone else in your life? Having people around can be a wonderful and fun experience, but do you need them? No, especially if you've become their punching bag. Why do you make some people indispensable, even though they're an ELFs or a rattlesnake? To pay the rent? To be there for your kids? To manage your books? To have a coffee with? Could you find other people to contribute these things to your life? Probably. So if you find you are yet again being taken for a ride by someone you think is perfect, or necessary and you cannot live without, ask “What am I refusing to see?” You might just see that they are not as indispensable as you thought they were, and your life might get a whole lot easier.
Are you finding it hard to giggle and hoot, wiggle and skip? What about a hint of a smile? Is that even hard? Do you remember laughing all the time when you were a kid? When did you buy the idea that you had to give up your non-stop hysterical giggling and “get serious”? Do you still believe that? Do you think it wouldn't suit you? That you're too old to be silly? That you've got keep things organised and on track? That you're the responsible one and if you don't do it, who will, and there's no time for frivolity? What if you could run a well-oiled machine, help all the ducks and kittens do what ducks and kittens need to do AND smile, giggle, hoot, wiggle and skip at the same time? What if a bit of a giggle even made you look and feel younger and gave you more energy? Like to find out? Then ask “What if I didn't take myself so seriously?” and start with a smile.
Feeling anxious? Panicky? Worried about something or someone? Is that yours? Or someone else's? How many people around you do you hear or see fretting about one thing or another everyday? A few, or almost everybody? And even if they're not talking about it, or showing it obviously on their face, can you feel it? So it should be no surprise that even if your life is actually pretty darn awesome, you somehow feel anxious. If you'd like to change that, next time you start to feel or say “What if this X terrible thing happens?” instead STOP, acknowledge how clever you are to be able to pick up all these feelings, and ask “Whose anxiety is this?” If the feeling lightens, then you know it wasn't yours. Now invite your smile back to the party of life.
Thank you for understanding I chose to take a short break to be with my family at the passing of my father.
Are you having a rough time, facing something tough? Do people around you say or do things that just get up your nose? Does it seem like everything going to hell in a handbasket? Do you frown all day, walk around with stooped shoulders, and snap at everyone (if you can get out of bed, that is)? Would you like to change that? Even if you don't think it's possible and can't see a way out, ask “What if I just smiled all day today?” This requires no thinking. Just pull those lips back into a smile. No matter what happens, no matter who says or does what, smile and be "interesting point of view". If you choose to stay in bed all day, smile at the ceiling. If you need to, pull a big rubber band across your mouth and hook it up to both ears to keep you smiling. Believe it or not, science shows this actually works to change your mood. Are you ready to change?
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