What decisions have you made about who or what you must be? Was that your idea or someone else's? Whatever yours reasons, decisions will only limit you. Questions on the other hand will open your eyes to possibilities you might not have been willing or able to see before, and empower you to choose consciously what you'd really like. So ask: "What have I decided I must be. If I could choose anything, who would I be?" You may choose the same. Or you may not. In any case, the choice will be consciously yours. And how will that make you feel?