Do you live life to the fullest? Adding more and more, just because it's fun and you can? Do you sometimes feel stressed by what you've taken on, but feel you can't stop because you'd let everybody down? Have you decided that you have to keep going, no matter what? If so and you'd like to create a little more ease for yourself, ask "What if taking a break was ok?" What if by taking a break, you created the space you required for something even better to show up?
Have you been shopping recently? Was it fun? Or did you get upset because you lost something, like a credit card or wallet? Were you overcharged? Did you miss out on a car park or a bargain? Did your children have a meltdown? Did you leave feeling stressed and penniless? If your experience was less than joyful, and you'd like to change your shopping (or any other) experience, ask “Is this mine? Or someone else's?”Thoughts, feelings and emotions are transmitted invisibly and soundlessly like WiFi through everyone nearby. So if you're in the middle of a shopping centre filled with overworked, underpaid, stressed, unhappy people on a budget trying to buy a “festive season,” be aware that you may pick up all their thoughts, feelings and emotions – even if you're financially comfortable and enjoy your work – and walk out feeling unhappy and overspent. Even if something does “go wrong” and you lose something, ask “What's right about this that I'm not getting?” and “How does it get any better?” smile and keep moving.
Do you have any stiffness in your body? In your neck, shoulders, spine, knees, wrists or hands? Anywhere else? Have you put it down to the natural aging process, repetitive strain injury, sitting or standing too long in one position, or lack of certain vitamins and minerals? Do you expect that as you grow older your body will stiffen and eventually seize up? If these are your points of view, then you are not wrong. What if there was a different possibility? What about those spritely seniors who roller blade like teenagers, ride horses like cowboys, or dance like latin lovers? What makes them so different? Could it simply be their point of view? If you'd like to find out, ask “What fixed points of view am I unwilling to let go?” How many layers of fixed points of view have you locked into your body and made so real that your body has lost its flexibility? What physical changes could you create with your body, simply by being willing to be “interesting point of view”?
When you meet people for the first time, what do you tell them about you? Do you have a set patter about who you are, what you do, what your title or business is, what the main challenges of your life are, and who else is in your life? Do you enjoy these conversations? Are they spontaneous and fun? Or are they boring and predictable? Do you find people really listen to them? Or do most people simply wait for a pause in your story to launch their own? How well do you listen to theirs? And how much of telling and retelling your story cements it into place? With each retelling, does it become easier for you to create the changes you'd like, or harder? If you'd like something different, ask “What if my life had no story?” What if you woke up every morning like Drew Barrymore in the movie 50 First Dates, with a totally fresh start? Like to play? Then for the next month, whenever you meet someone new, first asking them questions until they ask about you. Only then tell them something you have never said before, even if it's not yet true. Are you willing to create your life story the way you'd really like it?
Do you worry about what might go wrong? Is fear keeping you trapped? Are you anxious for no apparent reason? Do you feel frozen by these emotions and incapable of happiness? What's the value of operating from worry, anxiety and fear? What if happiness were just a choice? If you'd like a change, ask “What if I lived my life from the excitement of what could go right, rather than the fear of what could go wrong?” Perhaps you've misidentified excitement as fear? Or maybe you're distracted by implants that are not really yours? In both cases, acknowledge it and demand change. And if you enjoy the news, talkback radio, many other media programs and most people's conversations, consider repeating “interesting point of view” for everything you see, hear or read. How much of your worry, fear, and anxiety is you being a highly attuned WiFi device, receiving all the thoughts, feelings and emotions of everyone around you and buying them as yours? Would you “Return to sender with consciousness?”
When you ask questions to create the changes you'd like, how often do you focus them on changing a situation with someone, or something else? For example, you don't enjoy working in your family business, but you do it to keep the incoming money in the family. So you start asking questions like “What will it take for the business to attract a plentiful supply of customers?” or “What will it take for the other family members to do their jobs even better?” assuming that if you can generate more customers and greater efficiency for the business, it can and will hire someone else to do your job. You may create that outcome. Or you may create something completely different, including one which requires you to be even more involved. So if you'd like to make sure the changes you're asking for are aimed directly at the outcome you'd like for you, ask “Where am I in this?” In this case, you could ask “What will it take for the business to thrive and no longer require my labour, or something greater than I can imagine?
Do you consider change to be hard? You know you're not entirely (or at all) satisfied with your work, business, relationships, health, body or life in general, and you have an idea about what you'd prefer, and yet you can't seem to make it happen? Do you hear yourself saying “I'd like to do this, but I can't because...”? How many reasons and justifications do you have as to why your current situation, although not ideal, is easier to have than making waves and changing anything? What if change wasn't the hard part? If you'd like to find out what might open a door to greater possibilities, ask “Am I willing to acknowledge what I've chosen?” What if the hard part was acknowledging that everything you have created as your life until now had been your choice? There is no need to make it significant. Simply notice it and acknowledge that you are a magnificent creator. Now what do you choose to create? The same, or different?
Have you recently made a career change? Did you realise your job wasn't working for you and quit? Perhaps you had a more rewarding offer and moved on? Or did controversy force you to change ? Are you at ease with the change, or conflicted? Are you enjoying your new life completely? Or do you miss elements of your former career and remain energetically connected? Are you struggling to know who you are without your former identity? Do you think that change means you need to leave everything about the former you behind? Even if you were forced to leave your career defamed and vilified, regardless of the amazing contribution you had made, what if you didn't need to cut it off and make it wrong? If you'd like greater ease with your changes, ask “What can I use this as a springboard for, to create something even greater?” What if you considered your career change a gift that created the space for even more of you to show up?
How often can you see everything in someone else's universe? You know exactly what they could do different, that if they chose it would create change beyond their imagination? How many times have you tried to tell, show, coax, persuade, debate, argue, or fight to share your awareness, trying to help them to see it, and then choose it? How often has that worked? Always, sometimes, or almost never? If you'd like an easier approach with more dynamic results, ask yourself “What question could I ask here that would lead to the awareness that will create the greatest change?” Then putting aside your hopes and dreams about the change you know is possible, ask the question that comes to mind. It might appear to have nothing to do with the “issue.” It might be as seemingly unrelated as “Are you looking to change something? If so, just ask and I'll do what I can to help.” Then smile and wait until they ask you. Are you willing to wait?
How's your sex life? Existent? Non-existent? Is it easy and fun? Is it full of strife? Or somewhere in-between on auto-pilot? How do you choose who you'll have sex with? Do you base it on body type? Personality traits? Future financial potentials? Or your inner monologue of “Thank you, thank you, thank you for having sex with me, no matter what you are”? Would you like to create something different? If so, next time you meet someone you or your body responds to with that panting energy, ask “Will it be easy? Will it be fun? And will I learn something?” You may not get a “yes” on all three and yet still choose to go ahead. No worries. If it's easy and fun, how does it get any better? If you only get that you'll learn something, you may want to ask more questions, like “How does it get any better than this?” and “What else is possible?” If you get none, you may want to smile and walk away.