How old are you now? How old do you feel? What do people tell you about age? About what will happen when you turn 13, 20, 30, 40, 50, 60 and beyond? Does every decade come with a set of rules that people tell you you'll follow? Your body will change. You'll have mood swings. You'll be obsessed with sex. You'll want children. You'll get tired and get fat. You'll lose interest in sex. You'll grow more and more wrinkly, weak, frail, confused and sick. Have you ever seen people that naturally look and act years, even decades younger than their physical age? So you know it IS possible. What makes them different? And what if it were were possible for you too? Like to find out? If so, ask “What if age did not mean what they say?” Then STOP listening to the stories other people like to tell you about what age means and start listening to your body. Do you still feel 5-18 years old inside? Then be it.

How comfortable are you in your skin? Do you feel that you are the complete, natural expression of who you really are? Or do you sometimes feel confused or uncomfortable, not quite yourself ? Whenever you feel a little (or a lot) not like yourself, ask “Who am I trying to be?” There is nothing wrong with acknowledging other people's greatness. But will unconsciously adopting other people's traits create that same greatness in you? Maybe. And you would adopt not-so-great traits for what reason? This question will help you see more clearly the behaviour, thoughts, loves, fights, sacrifices, hopes, dreams or other that are not naturally yours, that you are taking on as yours. Once you can see them, you can let them go if they don't serve you and rediscover yourself. How? Ask, “If I were me, who would I be?”

Do you feel your world is more complicated than you like? Do you feel compelled to make things more complex than you think necessary? When you do a presentation at work, do you make it the simplest, cleanest, to-the-point version? Or do you feel obliged to add all the bells and whistles? When you write an essay for school, do you feel you have to include the most difficult sounding words and concepts? When you find people you like, do you try to impress them with fancy things? Nothing wrong with complex if it's fun, easy, feels light and works for you. And if it doesn't, ask “What if simple were right for me?” Are you willing to be aware of what works for you – simple, complex or in between – and choose that? If simple works for you, it might just work for many others too.

How often have you been told life is a roller coaster? That you have take the good with the bad? That without downs there would be no ups? What if your life had no ups and downs? Do you think you'd flatline? Have you decided that without the thrill of the up-down roller coaster you'd be dead? Do you enjoy being down? If not, then ask “What if my life just got better and better?” What makes your up times? What makes your down? Is it what happens? Or is it your point of view about what happens and your willingness to change? What if your point of view was that you could simply choose to be happy, without needing to be unhappy to experience the difference? What if you remembered to ask "What's right about this that I'm not getting?" What if happiness were just a choice?